A course got too hard so you dropped it, someone looked at you weird at a meeting, so it’s not worth going back—you name it, quitters always have an excuse for quitting. And, on the surface, it’s easy. But deep down, quitting is more like a disease. Being a quitter will work against your normal physiology, and it will stop some natural processes, creating whirls of free, unused energy, which will most likely transform into body imbalances- also known as illnesses. So, come on quitters learn to stick things out with these five ways to quit quitting. They will hopefully guide you in ways to fight the urge to give up when things get rough, allowing you to successfully accomplish tasks and goals. A must-read for anyone prone to preemptively throwing in the towel.
1. Clearly Decide What You Want
If you really like trolling Facebook all day just Troll it, don’t pretend you’re something your not just to procrastinate on Facebook while pretending you’re actually doing something worth while. If you really like having a beer or twelve, just sit on the couch for the whole day and have a beer or twelve. Don’t pretend you want to save the world from one person and that you’re doing some good when you really want to just sit there and be miserable.
Deciding what you want do or actually should do is the cornerstone of every successful activity. If you know in your heart that you want to be a better person, well, take note of what being a better person means.
Write down what you want to do in a visible place. Put it on the wall in front of you. I want to be a nicer person. Or I want to become a Better person. Or I want to become a kinder person. The most important thing generated by this simple action will be your energy focus. You will be focusing your resources in only one point, dramatically increasing your chances to succeed. Like the focus of the sunshine through a magnifying loupe: it can really light a fire.
2. Small Chunks Pays Big Time
Slice it up in daily manageable chunks. Long term results are more often the cause of small, constantly repeated actions. A sea is the sum of all the small creeks, after all. The beautiful snow is made by millions of snowflakes. A rainbow is light transformed by billions of raindrops. Just do what you have to do daily, regardless of how you feel about it. Fight the anger and hatred. But if you slice it up in daily chunks of repeated actions you will add up. You will build brick by brick. Step by step.
While browsing through my blog admin interface I saw that my blog now has more than 300 posts. For a moment, I couldn’t even imagine that number. Yes, I will have good days and bad days. Sometimes I will write 100 words, sometimes 2000. What matters is that I do it daily.
with this in mind if you practice being a nice person daily you can be successful and turn your life around.
3. Fail Fast, Fail Often
So you can understand if it works for you. If you don’t really fail on a wrong path, you can’t really know the good one. So, in order to be sure you are on the right track, be bold. Yes, you can fail. That’s one more reason to do hell out of your best in order to avoid failure. To mobilize every inch of resources available. It means going to sleep every day with a clear heart: I was as nice as I could be today.
One word though: I’m not in this big trend of “let’s have a big failure to be ready for success” which seems to have spread lately, but I do find failure indispensable in the learning process. Getting too intimate with failure can lead to a friendship as you well know, and I don’t want that. I accept failure as necessary and I welcome it every time it occurs, but man, what I want is success. Capital letters if you didn’t get it for the first time: SUCCESS!
4. They Don’t Know Shit About You
Nobody knows what you really want. Nobody can live for you. There is only one person in the universe who can live for you and that person would be, of course, only you. So, every time you get resistance from other people, resist to it. Don’t let it bring you down. Unless that resistance is helping you to be a better person. As long as you already have your dream clear in your mind, as long as you’re already doing what you Can daily to be a good person, in small chunks, as long as all your small failures made you even more confident in your path, don’t trust anybody but you. Only you can be a kind, good, and generous person.
This is especially necessary not only when you get rejected, but if you get accepted again. When you start to get praised again. When people start to notice your kind words. When they start to accept you again. Remember, nobody knows what’s in your heart. Don’t stop at the first sign of success. Don’t settle for an intermediary victory. Don’t accept the good while indeifnitely postponing the best. Nobody knows but you what success really means to you. Live it up to the fullest. If your goal was to become the nicest person in the world, don’t stop when you have just convinced a few. Even if being a nice person means centuries of evolution for you. Go for what YOU know you need, because they don’t know shit about you.
5. Be Happy About It
Chose one special moment to enjoy it. The end of the year will do it for many of us. Just look at what you did and be genuinely happy for it. Appreciate yourself. Appreciate your results. Smile at them. Smile at yourself. You did it! You have become a kinder gentler soul.
If you skip this step, all of the above will be useless. Appreciation is the invisible fuel of your actions. If you don’t appreciate what you’re doing, you’re not pumping enough fuel into your machine. Sooner or later it will stop.
It’s the beginning of a new year and I’m looking back at what I did in 2016. And I’m incredibly happy about it. I could explode with happiness and I’m not joking. Now I can see that every 10 minutes stolen from distractions are paying off big time. Every decision to work instead of procrastinating is transformed into real, visible value. And I’m happy for every “I can’t do this thing now” transformed into “well, let’s do it anyway”. I’m proud of what I did.
And that’s the whole secret behind how to quit becoming a quitter. Make I can’t quit something you’re proud of your saying for 2017.